As a part of our adoption class, I read a great and simple article on some do's and don'ts for grown-ups when it comes to cross-cultural adoption. If you're interested in reading it, go here. One statement was just fantastic. I pass on to any reader to keep in mind on the unintentional hurtful statements that can be made toward adoptive parents.
Don't tell us we're sure to have "our own" now. She is our own. Those parents who choose adoption because of infertility do not secretly harbor lifelong yearnings for a biological child. Having "our own" is now irrelevant; the child we have is the one we want and it is inconceivable that we could love or want any child more. Like all parents, we have the best.